A baby conceived through in vitro fertilisation (IVF) at a private hospital in Singapore has different DNA to the supposed father, a lawyer representing the clients said Wednesday.
After reading the news, I feel awkward and sorry for the couple. They were probably excited and eager to have a baby. Now, the baby only has the DNA of his mother, and no one knows who the real father of the child is. I wished that the private hospital didn’t make such a blatant mistake, but what is done, cannot be reversed. The other couples who are currently trying to conceive through IVF in that private hospital would probably be quite worried about their babies too. We don’t want a second case of ‘baby without the father or mother’s DNA ‘. The thought of ‘sharing’ the baby with a stranger feels weird. But it would be worse if the real father happens to be someone they are close to. Nobody wants to be caught in such a tacky situation.
I don’t know how the child would feel when he grows up. It is really saddening if the real father doesn’t have the opportunity to let the child know the truth. Let me give you a scenario:
When the child is a kid: The biological father wouldn’t bear to let the child know the truth at such a young age, for he fears that it would be detrimental to his growth.
When the child is a teen: This is when the father would worry about his child again. The teen would be experiencing mood swings, and he would be trying to handle things like school, love and friends. Who knows what the child would do if he knows about the truth? Would he go into rebellion, or do hurtful things to upset his parents?
When the child is now an adult: The child would be really angry with his parents for keeping the truth from him. Things would be really complicated.
So since there isn't a ‘right’ time to let the child know the truth, it is not the parent’s fault for keeping the truth from him (not letting him know earlier, or letting him know about it too early).
Now that the baby is born, the parents have to find a way to let the child know the truth someday.
In my opinion, I think the child would need a lot of love and the feel of acceptance (especially since no one knows who the biological father is). No child would like the feeling of ‘My parents left me at the dumping ground, because they don’t love me.’
In future, the biological father may have his reasons for hiding the truth from his child. But I hope the child would also look from his father’s point of view and try to understand his parent’s difficulties.
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Seah Hui Ying
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